There was a time when this kind of help was simply no mote than a dream. Inter-personal relationships was guesswork and very hard-going. Not any more! Now we have the perfect fix right here at our fingertips. Whether your relationship is as boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, if your are engaged or just serious (or thought you were), we have the solution to your woes. Not only can you learn how to mend a damaged relationship and get your ex back, but you will discover the amazing secrets behind keeping your partner with you in something bordering on bliss.
You see, a relationship doesn’t just break up on its own. It is interaction between two people that goes out of kilter over time. What was once a lovely and loving partnership becomes stale and creased with misunderstanding and irritation. HOW DO I UNDERSTAND THE OPPOSITE SEX? You might ask, fair enough question. You may never be able to fully understand your partner, but that is not THE KEY!
No, you can get along with your partner well enough based on certain behaviours, the kind that comes from you. We arm you with knowledge and tact, you put it into practise…if you care to. You see, it is you who needs to work at implementing the way ahead. And I can promise you this, some of the ways you will learn will definitely seem strange, but hell…they WORK! None of the methods are weird as such, they just don’t seem to make an awful lot of sense, but when you see what reaction you get you will be flabbergasted to say the least. I should know, I do it with my own wife
My wife gets very upset with the way our teens treat the house, as if it their personal dumping ground, bedrooms, kitchen…you name it. She gets to the stage where she just wants give up! This is where the learning, put into practise, comes in. It goes something like this…
Wife: “I just CANNOT TAKE THIS ANYMORE. I QUIT! I’VE HAD ENOUGH! I AM NOT THEIR MAID!!!”
(Get the idea, this is normally at full volume)
Me: “My dear, I wish there was something I could say to them that would make a difference. You are tired and frustrated and have it up to ‘HERE!’ and I don’t blame you. I know how you feel and wouldn’t like to be your shoes ever. Why not leave things as they are for now, let’s go out for coffee and time-out together”
Any guesses at the result, because at the same I take her into my arms, kiss her gently on the forehead and put her head into my shoulder for comfort…this is not manipulation, it is showing her that I understand, that I have noticed her situation and SHARE her frustration. I have CONFIRMED her feelings, they have been validated…that is all she needed to get a new lease on energy and focus on her day, and guess what happens next…you will NEVER guess
Wife: “Yes, I struggle to cope sometimes, I just get to feeling so used and hopeless. But I’ve got so much to do, let’s go out another time. This house is in a mess!” And would you believe it, she gets stuck into the house with renewed energy and it’s not long and the work is done, happily. Much better than if I’d said “Hey, that’s life. Get a grip on it my dear”. That would not have gone down well
I want to tell from my side how it feels to be able to do this for my wife, as I type this I get misty-eyed (yes, right now I have a lump in my throat), because it feels soooo good! To see her move out of my arms smiling where a few moments ago she in tears with frustration. I love my wife and tell her this regularly, and I show her in so many ways. This is so important, a man and a woman need to show each other that they care, and it kills a million objections dead cold….
This is just a brief example, there are as many ways a woman shows her man the same thing, you too have an obligation to put in the effort, well…when you get to actually doing it, it is really no effort at-all! We all need to be appreciated